The message of being thankful for what we have and showing an attitude of gratitude works wonders when practiced in daily life.I have been getting this message very often these days.May be I needed to accept the thought of gratitude as a part of life and be really thankful for whatever little I have in life.I seriously feel that the real secret to a happy life is being content and thankful with whatever one has.And as the law of attraction works things fall into place and only the good happens to the person with such a thankful attitude.We often feel that a person's existence fills up our hearts with a positive energy and somebody else's might reflect all the negativity present in the world.It only happens when the person is not content with whatever he/she is having and living an unsatisfied,still to get kinda life.
So the key to happiness in GRATITUDE.Period.No matter how little you have by outside standards, no matter how unconventional your life is, no matter whether you are where you thought you'd be by now. Learning to have gratitude for what you have at this very moment is (I'm realizing) the most important thing you can learn to do.
So I'm asking myself daily,
Do I know how lucky I am?
And the answer is...yes. Sometimes. And sometimes no.(I'm working on it.)
So, its all about the folks we know, who have pretty much been handed a great life--spouse-wise, financially, good kids...you know, lucky ones. And the killer part is that they don't even seem to get to know how fortunate they are.
Very unfortunate at that.
But again the discussion at other people being lucky is something which is totally against the whole idea of gratitude, but then it's OK having imperfect discussions every now and then.
Friday, March 30, 2012
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Parenting - in bits & pieces
The only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children are those who’ve never had any.’ ~Bill Cosby
It really takes a lifetime to understand what’s going on the kiddos mind. Going through scores of books, material on the net, getting tips from all the apparent agony aunts and here I get back to the crossroads where I constantly keep worrying about the kiddos eating habits, his throwing tantrums over silly things and also cant keep myself from amazing at the love and warmth I get from the chubby cheeks & dimpled chin. Sometimes I get to the edge of losing my temper and feel that may be this was a heavy price I am paying for having a child and I can’t stand a minute when he is out for a simple ride with his papa. But then again I am loving this experience, the whole experience without any expectations of being a mum and yes, again I am loving this small little cho chweet kiddo to bits and pieces. This fulfilling experience of being a woman is something which can only experienced when one gets to teach the roots of life to another little human being. But this whole thing has given a new meaning to both our lives. There were times when I was struggling day in and day out to lessen the stress levels I was going through being a new mum and here I am totally carefree and glad that its all a “learn as you go through it” process. So its all experience that really teaches you how to be a stress free parent and be a guilt free parent life( which I was going through for most part of kiddos below 2 years life given the fact that he is a fussy eater)
So, leading the stress free parent life thing isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.
• When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
• Lead by example because no matter what I advise the kiddo he wouldn’t pay 2 hoots to it but then seeing us and trying to imitate our activity has taught him most of his basic lessons. Be it brushing right after waking up or not drinking cola or table manners, he has learnt a lot by seeing us. So always lead by example, never advice.
• Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
• Do not worry about about the child’s eating habits. He is more in touch with Mother Nature than we are. So respect his taste buds and let him choose what to eat. You can play the role of an advisor, who gives him a chance to choose from different veggies.(All thanks to Rujuta for making me guilt free about this one thing!!)
• It is often the child’s behavior which is disliked. So differentiate the fact that it is only the behavior/attitude which you dislike in the child but then again the child means the world to you come what may. So show the difference and the kid understands the fact in due course of time.
• Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
• Repeat repeat and repeat at least 100 times. Children are novice to learning things so give 101st time a shot to try if the child hasn’t learn through your teaching him 100 times. Be patient.
• Kiss your child goodnight and ready a story to him every night. He might not totally understand but the story telling thing will reap benefits one day as you will see his imagination, vocabulary and word power increase by the day.
And be thankful for the bundle of joy god has gifted to you. Give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.
It really takes a lifetime to understand what’s going on the kiddos mind. Going through scores of books, material on the net, getting tips from all the apparent agony aunts and here I get back to the crossroads where I constantly keep worrying about the kiddos eating habits, his throwing tantrums over silly things and also cant keep myself from amazing at the love and warmth I get from the chubby cheeks & dimpled chin. Sometimes I get to the edge of losing my temper and feel that may be this was a heavy price I am paying for having a child and I can’t stand a minute when he is out for a simple ride with his papa. But then again I am loving this experience, the whole experience without any expectations of being a mum and yes, again I am loving this small little cho chweet kiddo to bits and pieces. This fulfilling experience of being a woman is something which can only experienced when one gets to teach the roots of life to another little human being. But this whole thing has given a new meaning to both our lives. There were times when I was struggling day in and day out to lessen the stress levels I was going through being a new mum and here I am totally carefree and glad that its all a “learn as you go through it” process. So its all experience that really teaches you how to be a stress free parent and be a guilt free parent life( which I was going through for most part of kiddos below 2 years life given the fact that he is a fussy eater)
So, leading the stress free parent life thing isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.
• When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
• Lead by example because no matter what I advise the kiddo he wouldn’t pay 2 hoots to it but then seeing us and trying to imitate our activity has taught him most of his basic lessons. Be it brushing right after waking up or not drinking cola or table manners, he has learnt a lot by seeing us. So always lead by example, never advice.
• Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
• Do not worry about about the child’s eating habits. He is more in touch with Mother Nature than we are. So respect his taste buds and let him choose what to eat. You can play the role of an advisor, who gives him a chance to choose from different veggies.(All thanks to Rujuta for making me guilt free about this one thing!!)
• It is often the child’s behavior which is disliked. So differentiate the fact that it is only the behavior/attitude which you dislike in the child but then again the child means the world to you come what may. So show the difference and the kid understands the fact in due course of time.
• Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
• Repeat repeat and repeat at least 100 times. Children are novice to learning things so give 101st time a shot to try if the child hasn’t learn through your teaching him 100 times. Be patient.
• Kiss your child goodnight and ready a story to him every night. He might not totally understand but the story telling thing will reap benefits one day as you will see his imagination, vocabulary and word power increase by the day.
And be thankful for the bundle of joy god has gifted to you. Give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Adarsh Bhartiya Nari?
I came across this Hindi poem doing the rounds on FB a couple of weeks ago.Whoever is the poet,his idea of an ideal Indian woman goes something like this!!
*** आदर्श भारतीय नारी (??) ***
*** Ideal Indian woman (??)***
सर पे सिंदूर का “फैशन” नहीं है,
No sindoor is applied because they think it is not the fashion.
गले मे मंगलसूत्र का “टेंशन” नहीं है !
They want no tension of wearing Mangalsutra
माथे पे बिंदी लगाना “आउटडेटेड” लगती है,
They think wearing a bindi on their forehead is outdated
तरह तरह की लिपस्टिक अब होंठो पे
सजती है !
Various types of lipsticks now beautify their lips
आँखों में काजल और मस्कारा लगाती हैं,
They apply Kajal and mascara in eyes
नकली पलकों से आँखो को खूब सजाती हैं !
They enhance their eyes with artificial eye lashes
मूख ऐसा रंग लेती हैं की दूर से चमकता है,
they make their face up in ways that it glows from afar
पर्फ्यूम इतना तेज की मीलों से महकता है !
Perfume so strong the air is fragrant for miles
जो नथ कभी नाक की शोभा बढाती थी,
The nose-pin which enhanced the beauty of their noses once
आज होठ और जीभ पे लग नाक
Is pinned on the tongue or lips now
को ठेंगा दिखती हैं !
And cocks a snook from there.
बालों की “स्टाइल” जाने कैसी -
कैसी हो गयी,
What a variety of hair styles
वो बलखाती लंबी चोटी ना जाने
कहाँ खो गयी !
That long braid- where is it lost?
और परिधान तो ऐसे “डिज़ाइन” में आये हैं,
And attires have come in such designs
कम से कम पहनना इन्हें खूब भाये है !
They prefer to wear as little as possible
आज अंग प्रदर्शन
करना मजबूरी सी लगती है,
They feel compelled to expose their bodies
सोचती है इसी मे
इनकी खूबसूरती झलकती है !
They think that is the way to look attractive
पर आज भी जब कोई भारतीय परिधान
पहनती है,
But even today when she wears an Indian outfit
सच बताऊं सभी की आँखे उस पे ही अटकत हैं !
I will tell you the truth, every eye is attracted to that!
सादगी, भोलापन और शर्म ही भारतीय
स्त्री की पहचान है,
Simplicity, innocence and shame is an Indian woman’s identity
मत त्यागो इन्हें यही हमारे देश
का स्वाभिमान है !
Do not reject them, these are our country’s self respect!
यदि अब भी हम सोच रहे है कि ये आने
वाली माताएं हमारी आने वाली पीढ़ी में
‘भगत सिंह या नेताजी’ पैदा करेंगी, तो हम
गलत सोच रहे हैं,
If we are still thinking these future mothers in coming generations will produce Bhagat Singh or Netaji then we are thinking wrong,
पश्चिम की नक़ल करते
करते हम पूरी तरह अंधे हो चुके है……
Aping the west has blinded us completely….
जो अब
लाइलाज बीमारी का रूप ले चुकी है……!!
It has now become an untreatable illness….!!!
॥ ईश्वर इन्हे सद्बुद्धि दे ॥
II May god give them wisdom II
जय हिन्द, जय भारत !!
Jai Hindi, Jai Bharat!!
MY TAKE ON THIS POEM :
1. Braid or no braid, totally depends on the convenience of the wearer.If she is comfortable in short hair,doesnt mean she has no values whatsoever.
2. We cannot lay down the rules as to who should wear what and what not! As long as a women in comfortable and decently carries the attire she is wearing then its okay letting her being herself,since a lot of this depends on her tastes,attitude,income bracket and the life and times of the woman.
3.Simplicity and innocence are like any other attributes any human posseses.Why rub these traits exclusively on the women.Some are simple while someone else may be complex: some are innocent and others might be assertive and independent.
4. I think today's women are juggling among tens of roles, being so much more than what she was during Netaji or Bhagat Singh's days.An independent and confident woman undoubtedly breeds the finer set of human reproduction.
5.The west has not only blinded women,we have,in all terms been aping the west.Much more now since the world is getting smaller day by day.Therein lies the word "tolerance" which unfortunately the poet does not seem to have.
Rather than stressing upon the ADARSH NARI syndrome wouldnt it be better if we thought more about THE ADARSH HUMAN be it nari or mard.
Saturday, October 8, 2011
Perfection ...what is it ??
Winter is fast setting in.The evenings are getting faster by the day.A sign of relief for all the people here who are living so close by the equator that we dont actually know how spine chilling can the winter coldness be. I have found this cute poster a few days ago and the most difficult points are the fourth and the fifth ones.
1. Love each other : Ofcourse, it goes without saying that nature has this inherent policy woven in itself which taught us to be loved, we need to share love.Its same like " smile and the world smiles back at you" How true!
2. Don't lie : I cannot, even if I try to
3. Keep communication open : Cent percent true for any of the relations where you want to see the relation growing.It doesn't matter even if you are all pally pally without speaking much but the real magic of a relation surfaces when the ice breaks through.Yes communication and a lot of it really works.Very much.
4. Stay sweet : Okay, as long as you okay with your life's philosophy staying sweet is fine.It actually helps.Helps in getting along with others.But staying sweet always ...is it possible in real terms ??
5. Forgive and forget : Not actually possible.If it were so easy, our lives would be so smooth and happy.May be we can just put aside the bitter thoughts but forgetting literally doesn't happen.
6. Never talk about break ups : Just like its waste to fret over a broken vase, its futile to rerun the relationship memories which were never intended to be.
7. Never say ok when its not : A bit contrary to stay sweet, but in the long run saying a clear no speaks our mind and we are at peace.
8. Pride breaks down people.
9. Saying sorry without actually meaning has become a "chalta hai" thing for everyone and it has actually lost its true sense of the word.
10. Comparing past with the present is like trying to fit into a pair of jeans in your ninth month of pregnancy which you actually bought in your high school.
11. Don't talk about your ex's : Lets not!
12. Give and take process : Philosophy of life.Nothing comes for free.
13. Beware of feeling : Rather than being aware we need to respect each others feelings.
14. When you had a fight... be the first one to talk and patch up.( since you know you are the best of the two)
15. Perfection has no bench mark. Right attitude always wins.
Monday, August 22, 2011
For you...
On the occasion of our fourth marriage anniversary I dedicate this song to you:
My all time favourite is this one, again for you:
My all time favourite is this one, again for you:
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Rendezvous with myself
This is an extension of "about me" category on the blog.
I am trying to mention at least 25 points about me.I can go on rambling about this super human being but how much can one read about the bestest species. As Aamir would have said towards the end of Dil Chahta Hai, "Perfection ko improve karna mushkil hota hai".So go on .Here I am..
1. I am a Stay At Home Mom and I have started liking this status.So,may be I might bid adieu to corporate slavery and settle down happily in motherhood.(not sure yet,might try for some flexitime possibility)
2. I have started to shut up with people who are dumb to new ideas and addicted to age old crap in the name of customs and traditions.Good for them,good for me.
Enlightenment work is not my business.Let them die in bliss (Ignorance is bliss,anyways)
3. I can't be goody goody with people I hate and I don't stop being friends with people on the basis of third party allegations.I need to see it to believe it.So,back biters don't affect me.
4. I buy books and forget to read them.
5. I am married to a person who loves me unconditionally,irrespective of all my flaws and follies.
6. I am not a very hard working person.
7. I hate SMSing back.
8. I support Euthanasia - not because I couldn't watch Hrithik in Guzaarish, but I really feel that is the solution for once and all.
Ref: Aruna shanbag's case, a lady who has been fighting the battle of life for the past 37 years.God, please have mercy.
9. Health is Wealth - I totally agree with this.
10. When in doubt, I turn to my parents for advice
11. Someday,I would open my own YOGA STUDIO.
12. Also,I will have a personal library of mine.
13. I invest in shares just for the joy of tracking them.
14. I don't watch much of TV
15. Manusmriti scripts are total bakwas and I can't stand anyone who supports them for the mere reason that they do not belong to this day and age.I feel they are written by a person who does not know the meaning of humanism,leave alone feminism.
16. I feel embarassed when people catch me crying over an emotional flick.
17. I am happy that plastic is banned in Hyderabad.Feel sorry for the 5 lakh and above people employed in it.
18. I love reading books - any sort.
19. Mother guilt creeps into me very often.More when the kiddo does not complete his food.
20. I am not photogenic.I am the third shortest member in my family.I have put on kilos of weight on me which shows off as flab,trying to get off it.I love myself,nevertheless.
21. I used to adore Barkha Dutt and wanted to become a journalist during my college days.
22. I was a fan of Nicolas cage,until one of my friends commented about him being bald.
23. I think I can never ever have the patience of my mom.
24. Very soon I am gonna start volunteering an NGO which works for children's cause.
25.I am a night owl.I can never wake up to see the beauty of sunrise but can watch the moon give way to the sun.
WOW,this was way too easy than I had expected and I have still so many to rant about.Shall post the remaining in part II.What say?
I am trying to mention at least 25 points about me.I can go on rambling about this super human being but how much can one read about the bestest species. As Aamir would have said towards the end of Dil Chahta Hai, "Perfection ko improve karna mushkil hota hai".So go on .Here I am..
1. I am a Stay At Home Mom and I have started liking this status.So,may be I might bid adieu to corporate slavery and settle down happily in motherhood.(not sure yet,might try for some flexitime possibility)
2. I have started to shut up with people who are dumb to new ideas and addicted to age old crap in the name of customs and traditions.Good for them,good for me.
Enlightenment work is not my business.Let them die in bliss (Ignorance is bliss,anyways)
3. I can't be goody goody with people I hate and I don't stop being friends with people on the basis of third party allegations.I need to see it to believe it.So,back biters don't affect me.
4. I buy books and forget to read them.
5. I am married to a person who loves me unconditionally,irrespective of all my flaws and follies.
6. I am not a very hard working person.
7. I hate SMSing back.
8. I support Euthanasia - not because I couldn't watch Hrithik in Guzaarish, but I really feel that is the solution for once and all.
Ref: Aruna shanbag's case, a lady who has been fighting the battle of life for the past 37 years.God, please have mercy.
9. Health is Wealth - I totally agree with this.
10. When in doubt, I turn to my parents for advice
11. Someday,I would open my own YOGA STUDIO.
12. Also,I will have a personal library of mine.
13. I invest in shares just for the joy of tracking them.
14. I don't watch much of TV
15. Manusmriti scripts are total bakwas and I can't stand anyone who supports them for the mere reason that they do not belong to this day and age.I feel they are written by a person who does not know the meaning of humanism,leave alone feminism.
16. I feel embarassed when people catch me crying over an emotional flick.
17. I am happy that plastic is banned in Hyderabad.Feel sorry for the 5 lakh and above people employed in it.
18. I love reading books - any sort.
19. Mother guilt creeps into me very often.More when the kiddo does not complete his food.
20. I am not photogenic.I am the third shortest member in my family.I have put on kilos of weight on me which shows off as flab,trying to get off it.I love myself,nevertheless.
21. I used to adore Barkha Dutt and wanted to become a journalist during my college days.
22. I was a fan of Nicolas cage,until one of my friends commented about him being bald.
23. I think I can never ever have the patience of my mom.
24. Very soon I am gonna start volunteering an NGO which works for children's cause.
25.I am a night owl.I can never wake up to see the beauty of sunrise but can watch the moon give way to the sun.
WOW,this was way too easy than I had expected and I have still so many to rant about.Shall post the remaining in part II.What say?
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Generations of bonding
Such a wonderful sight to see my kiddo bonding with my grandmother.
Sometimes,I get upset thinking that my kiddo's childhood would be missing the beauty of rural India,which we enjoyed as kids..I remember that as kids,we used to get super excited about visiting my granny's house in our village.It was a lake side village which hardly had the government bus facility,leave alone railway connection.But,still the thought of travelling all the way from Vizag to my granny's place was nothing less of an expedition for us.
We used to eagerly wait for summer vacations to make this month long trip a memorable one.The village had very few large houses and my grandpa's house was a huge house which had a large Verandah with pink painted pillars all around the verandah and this was where we used to while away the scorching afternoons.The pathway adjoining the verandah had exotic smelling plants like the nightqueen,Jasmine,gulmohar and other variety of trees which would spread their sweet smell for the guests sitting in the verandah.
Next to the sitting area were two rooms with huge wooden doors ( with some carvings on the doors) where we used to play up and down all the time.Then there was vast open space next to the room where there were guava trees and some other flowering plants, which basically served as a lawn in between the rooms and the kitchen.Next to the kitchen was a well where I always wanted to fetch water using a rope, but never got a chance to do so because of my fearsome naani.
Now,all that seems history because with the passing away of my grandpa and people migrating over to the city culture, the house was remodeled and we are only left with these memories to share with our kids.
Memories,which the kiddo can only hear but never experience in reality.But the good thing is, my granny still lives in the same house inspite of my uncle's repeated requests to live with them.Maybe she still recollects the good old days in that house.She very rarely travels and this picture with the kiddo was taken when she came to our house during February this year.
Edited to Add: The kiddo need not wait for year end vacations to see his granny.She's just a phone call away from him : )
Monday, June 13, 2011
This and that
Amazed at how people change with the passing phases in life.May be that is called learning from experiences and living with the flow.The sleeping kiddo,boring TV and non-stop rain have given me some quality time to think of what I actually learnt from this journey of life.
1. Patience: An attribute which I always lacked but I suddenly sense that I have it in tonnes( all thanks to my kiddo).Getting even never works.Just being patient solves many problems in life.
2. Forget what others think about you because as long as you try pleasing them and trying to be in their good books,you will lose your own self and have to life someone else's way.So just be yourself.This is something I learnt the hard way, after realising that I was not being myself trying to put up with something I don't believe in.
3.Being healthy is very important,for you and for others dependent on you.
4.Fear of the future : Just prepare for the worst and you actually realise that the future is not all that worst.It is the attitude that actually matters.
5.Smile and the world smile backs at you: Very true.A smile can actually win over people with whom we are not very friendly.A heartful smile can ease the situation and break the ice of bitterness.
6. Hang on: There were times when I left things midway but hanging on with the situation and seeing the situation with positive perspective really helped.So hang on and give things a chance, if you still are not comfortable then it is time to give up.
7.Now is the time: Postponing things for a particular date never helps.It is now or never.
8.Save for a rainy day: Start saving right from the day you start earning.Money compounds in no time and one day you are the richest.
9. Curiousness for everything going around enriches one's life.May be that is the reason why kids are always busy doing little things they like and they dont seem to know what boredom means.So enrich your life by reading books,taking up a physical activity or with anything for which you are passionate about.
10. Get rid of the past: Burying one's self in the past looks great in films but it sucks in reality.Just get out of it and move on because life is so much more beautiful than fretting over what has happened.
1. Patience: An attribute which I always lacked but I suddenly sense that I have it in tonnes( all thanks to my kiddo).Getting even never works.Just being patient solves many problems in life.
2. Forget what others think about you because as long as you try pleasing them and trying to be in their good books,you will lose your own self and have to life someone else's way.So just be yourself.This is something I learnt the hard way, after realising that I was not being myself trying to put up with something I don't believe in.
3.Being healthy is very important,for you and for others dependent on you.
4.Fear of the future : Just prepare for the worst and you actually realise that the future is not all that worst.It is the attitude that actually matters.
5.Smile and the world smile backs at you: Very true.A smile can actually win over people with whom we are not very friendly.A heartful smile can ease the situation and break the ice of bitterness.
6. Hang on: There were times when I left things midway but hanging on with the situation and seeing the situation with positive perspective really helped.So hang on and give things a chance, if you still are not comfortable then it is time to give up.
7.Now is the time: Postponing things for a particular date never helps.It is now or never.
8.Save for a rainy day: Start saving right from the day you start earning.Money compounds in no time and one day you are the richest.
9. Curiousness for everything going around enriches one's life.May be that is the reason why kids are always busy doing little things they like and they dont seem to know what boredom means.So enrich your life by reading books,taking up a physical activity or with anything for which you are passionate about.
10. Get rid of the past: Burying one's self in the past looks great in films but it sucks in reality.Just get out of it and move on because life is so much more beautiful than fretting over what has happened.
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Hey 'YOU'
AN OPEN LETTER TO MY DEAR WOMEN
Dear Women,
You are a wonderful creature which god has gifted to the mankind(you know that).I have always wanted to talk to you.I am the voice in your head who would like to speak its mind, but prefers being shut up for the fear of being labelled as a feminist.Now,the time has come to have a dialogue with you, since I feel there is an urgent need for you to slow down,relax and listen to me at least for once in your lifetime.So,please listen to me,no no its not about your son's school or your daughter's exam or your husbands office party or your in-laws health.It's about YOU.Yes,only you.Hey wait,wait is it sounding way too strange that I am speaking about something which you have forgotten long ago when you got married and buried completely in the celebration of the arrival of your 'bundle of joy'(aka ghar ka waris).Boring it may sound,but listen to me.
Feminist one may call me,busy you might be,but you have to spare me a second.Now,come on you are such a big hearted creature that you have time for everyone around(excepting you, ofcourse) so sparing a few minutes to me,I am sure is not a big deal to you.
Ok,now tell me when was the last time you have cooked something for yourself.Don't say 'cooking has become a daily chore'.Think when have you cooked something exclusively for yourself.(now,don't give that nasty look).Guess when have you cooked a favorite dish of yours?What?Can't remember.Okey,tough one at that I guess!Now you must be thinking, why on earth would you become such a selfish human being and cook something which is of your favorite rather than adjust with anything which your betu or hubby likes?What say?
Huh! Indian NAARI!
Tags like Super woman/mom,Good bahu and ideal mother matter much more to you than the real 'YOU'.
I can't buy the benchmarking set for women just to become that ideal bahu,ideal mother or ideal beti for that matter.This ideal concept is nothing but pure bullshit.
Just to make a woman more and more glued towards the cause of becoming an ideal women,such nonsense is vibrated rhythmically into our mental conditioning.It is like you have forgotten the you,in yourself.It is as if your needs have been transferred to some other planet and the slightest imagination of these needs makes you labelled as selfish and irresponsible.NOT DONE YA.
The truth is ideal women does not exist on this earth.Super moms,who take care of husband,job,kids,in-laws,relatives,house,laundry,kitchen,garden and each and every aspect of life only exist in films and TV soaps.If you are trying to become one,supressing your passions and needs,then get ready for the retaliation setting within yourself,which might burst any moment.This ideal concept goes to the extent of women sacrificing their hunger,sleep,desires,passions and totally stressed out to the point of forgetting that there existed one person called YOU.
So now ennuff of kids,family,boss etc.etc., and take a break.Take a break,not for
anyone else,but for the me in you.Just give it a try.Do something for yourself.Just for your sake.Leave behind the ideal nonsense(suitable for soaps),forget the guilt factor(you should be already guilty for degenerating yourself),so just for once live life for your sake.Live life on your own terms.For your contentment,for your fulfillment.That is Bliss.That is called LIFE.At least for sometimes.Let the positive energy flow and spread everywhere around you.The positive energy has a boomerang effect and it takes everyone into its stride.Let the suppressed retaliation take wings and fly away.Discover the new you.Now you are the ideal women. No other take on that.
Waiting for your response,
your inner voice.
Dear Women,
You are a wonderful creature which god has gifted to the mankind(you know that).I have always wanted to talk to you.I am the voice in your head who would like to speak its mind, but prefers being shut up for the fear of being labelled as a feminist.Now,the time has come to have a dialogue with you, since I feel there is an urgent need for you to slow down,relax and listen to me at least for once in your lifetime.So,please listen to me,no no its not about your son's school or your daughter's exam or your husbands office party or your in-laws health.It's about YOU.Yes,only you.Hey wait,wait is it sounding way too strange that I am speaking about something which you have forgotten long ago when you got married and buried completely in the celebration of the arrival of your 'bundle of joy'(aka ghar ka waris).Boring it may sound,but listen to me.
Feminist one may call me,busy you might be,but you have to spare me a second.Now,come on you are such a big hearted creature that you have time for everyone around(excepting you, ofcourse) so sparing a few minutes to me,I am sure is not a big deal to you.
Ok,now tell me when was the last time you have cooked something for yourself.Don't say 'cooking has become a daily chore'.Think when have you cooked something exclusively for yourself.(now,don't give that nasty look).Guess when have you cooked a favorite dish of yours?What?Can't remember.Okey,tough one at that I guess!Now you must be thinking, why on earth would you become such a selfish human being and cook something which is of your favorite rather than adjust with anything which your betu or hubby likes?What say?
Huh! Indian NAARI!
Tags like Super woman/mom,Good bahu and ideal mother matter much more to you than the real 'YOU'.
I can't buy the benchmarking set for women just to become that ideal bahu,ideal mother or ideal beti for that matter.This ideal concept is nothing but pure bullshit.
Just to make a woman more and more glued towards the cause of becoming an ideal women,such nonsense is vibrated rhythmically into our mental conditioning.It is like you have forgotten the you,in yourself.It is as if your needs have been transferred to some other planet and the slightest imagination of these needs makes you labelled as selfish and irresponsible.NOT DONE YA.
The truth is ideal women does not exist on this earth.Super moms,who take care of husband,job,kids,in-laws,relatives,house,laundry,kitchen,garden and each and every aspect of life only exist in films and TV soaps.If you are trying to become one,supressing your passions and needs,then get ready for the retaliation setting within yourself,which might burst any moment.This ideal concept goes to the extent of women sacrificing their hunger,sleep,desires,passions and totally stressed out to the point of forgetting that there existed one person called YOU.
So now ennuff of kids,family,boss etc.etc., and take a break.Take a break,not for
anyone else,but for the me in you.Just give it a try.Do something for yourself.Just for your sake.Leave behind the ideal nonsense(suitable for soaps),forget the guilt factor(you should be already guilty for degenerating yourself),so just for once live life for your sake.Live life on your own terms.For your contentment,for your fulfillment.That is Bliss.That is called LIFE.At least for sometimes.Let the positive energy flow and spread everywhere around you.The positive energy has a boomerang effect and it takes everyone into its stride.Let the suppressed retaliation take wings and fly away.Discover the new you.Now you are the ideal women. No other take on that.
Waiting for your response,
your inner voice.
Monday, May 16, 2011
Bubbles
I totally understand how beneficial it is to select and work out some form of exercise at least 3 days a week.Hmm...with so much gyan all around about fitness I have come to the conclusion of at least 3 days, but I have been a failure in really sticking to the work out thing.Every time I start with a bang and the bubble bursts in a few days and then I am back to late night readings, bindass eating and all the wrong things against fitness. I always plan my day,my eating routine,watch my sleep timings,put off everything for the next day if case be,load my fridge with the right food,plan the menu etc ..etc.. all these just to make sure that I fall in line with the upcoming session of my exercise plan.So far everything seems to be working out.Then come the big day,I start off with my newly acquired enthusiasm, to the place of activity.I somehow manage to do a few workouts(arrey,pehla din hai ) ,the trainer with a very unpleasant face looks at me and explains how I need to shed off those extra calories,then she again says how the film-stars work out day in and out just to make that picture perfect bodies they have,she then very assuringly lends me hope saying that it is not a big deal for me if I follow everything she says to the T.Good.Good.Hopes raise in full gear.huh..Some competition for Kareena.My Savior then goes ahead to plan the diet menu for me.No fries,no sweets,no oil,cut down salt intake,cut down rice in the evenings,eat the dinner before 7pm and the list goes on and on.My head already starts swinging.OMG.Poor me.Is it because of the over exertion,or my messiah's menu plan.Oh well,well,this is just the first day.I make believe myself that I will get used to this, once I get habituated to the system.After all it takes at least 21 days for any habit to be imbibed into our lifestyle forever.So I console myself saying that 'intezar ka phal mitha hota hai'.Again Mitha,why do I feel like eating mitha so much??When was the last time I had Dairy Milk fruit and nuts? Well,whatever.End of first day of training session.I come back home, with an air of achievement.Tell my hubby thousand things on the cholesterol lining up the arteries and how it can be melted away, like ghee on tawa, just by joining me in this war for health.I realise he doesn't pay much attention to my words( so common with men,I suppose).Then through the day my body starts aching and I have this feel good hormone which says "Yay its working,atleast some cholesterol is melting" and with all the body pains I keep informing everyone that I am on a diet and an exercise regimen which I have just started.I also see some obese people, jealously praying for some god intervention in my regimen.But aah,god listens to me more than anyone else,so I religiously follow to my workout session on the second day too.As a matter of fact right from childhood we have been taught that no break should be allowed on the second day of an activity.So on successful completion of my second day workout,I am convinced that miracles will follow and I am just a couple of months away from that well deserving fab bod which girls often dream about.
Then after a few days of working out,I somehow miss the boat of regularity.May be it is because of the roller coaster ride from dawn until dusk or the stresses of parenting or all the multi-tasking which zaps my energy levels to zero. It seems that too many unexpected obstacles come in the way and my workout dream melts,just like ghee,you see.
So that's how the bubble bursts you know,but like a committed health freak, I join again in yet another Yoga center (may be the previous one was not too auspicious for me) and continue the saga of chasing good health(more than good shape,by all means).May be this time I will be a little more selfish and give my personal,physical and mental health a bit more of a priority.
Just wish me luck guys: ).
Then after a few days of working out,I somehow miss the boat of regularity.May be it is because of the roller coaster ride from dawn until dusk or the stresses of parenting or all the multi-tasking which zaps my energy levels to zero. It seems that too many unexpected obstacles come in the way and my workout dream melts,just like ghee,you see.
So that's how the bubble bursts you know,but like a committed health freak, I join again in yet another Yoga center (may be the previous one was not too auspicious for me) and continue the saga of chasing good health(more than good shape,by all means).May be this time I will be a little more selfish and give my personal,physical and mental health a bit more of a priority.
Just wish me luck guys: ).
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