Woo Hoo !!! I am back!!

The curtain raises.....and here I am back ....hellooooo all ( if there are any ; ) ) I guess I have been away from the blog world for quite sometime now but then its okay,as they say its better late than never. But I am back again to something I have been doing since I quit (if this is the right word I could use) college.A bit of a large break I had taken to spend time with my baby, the kiddo.Not that I didn't enjoy the time with my kiddo,bah(who does not seem to want anyone else when I am around).It's that I wanted to do something more to what I have got used to doing now since 3 years.,So after a long break of 3 years I am back to my regular working life. (though I can't yet call it a full time job since I have opted for flexitime,but chalo its cool by me).
    So,here I am with a bang, back again ! yeah !! yeah !!Back to corporate world (Ahem,so heavy the word corporate sounds)!! Back to meetings,deadlines,Monday blues and only weekend outings.And with flexitime I couldn't afford to ask for a two day weekend like it was in my previous work place but then its great with what I have got.(still thinking at the back of my mind if I can make one/two  outings on weekdays too but the thought of getting late to work next morning put my thoughts in place) So okey!! can't risk myself for things which are not under my control.At least for the Log in Time recording thingy which welcomes me with a "oh! so you are on time" look. Not to mention the fact that the kiddo has got so much pampered in these vacations that he does not get up on time or he only makes it a point to get up just when his mamma is about to leave for office (making me swallow the guilt of leaving him unattended) or even when he wakes up, it takes a huge toll om my acha acha made up morning mood to freshen him up and feed something edible to him after which he decides to start sulking while I leave the house.But even that seems to be getting better now a days.
 Talking about the kiddo, I am really amazed at the speed at which he is catching up with things.I am surprised at his excellent memory and observational skills.He is also able to recall incidents which go into the purview of long lost and forgotten past according to me.Truly amazing with a mother who could not afford to remember what her hubby gifted her on her last birthday(which by the way was in April!!) Aaargh !!!
I can't seem to remember significant things while my kiddo has got exceptional memory skills.Well,it's all in the genes you see ( okay,don't give me that look). So things are going pretty fine at my home front except for a few hitches here and there which include forgetting to get  the clothes over the terrace till they got completely drenched in rain,the kiddo getting all messy in his baby oil tube which I seem to have forgotten to hide it from him and not attending to the doctor's appointment after having fixed it in one months advance.Rest is fine excepting these chotey chotey issues.
 Today will mark my first monthasary at job not to mention the fact that my first assignment was a complete disaster much to my amazement and delight (ha ha ha).And surprisingly a series of assignments followed it which I should say went well by my benchmarks(of course, I don't regard the other sides opinion here,My blog ya!!)So all goes on well until I find out that the LAN has gone off,Internet gets disconnected  and my system,my precious system keeps hanging from time to time( bangs her head on the keyboard!! yes, go ahead, feel sorry for me).But, the one positive soul that I am, I started reading a book on stress management and with all that gyan downloaded (takes a bow and says) "What ta beautiful life this is "!!




The curtain raises.....and here I am back ....hellooooo all ( if there are any ; ) ) I guess I have been away from the blog world for quite sometime now but then its okay,as they say its better late than never. But I am back again to something I have been doing since I quit (if this is the right word I could use) college.A bit of a large break I had taken to spend time with my baby, the kiddo.Not that I didn't enjoy the time with my kiddo,bah(who does not seem to want anyone else when I am around).It's that I wanted to do something more to what I have got used to doing now since 3 years.,So after a long break of 3 years I am back to my regular working life. (though I can't yet call it a full time job since I have opted for flexitime,but chalo its cool by me).

Parenting - in bits & pieces

The only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children are those who’ve never had any.’ ~Bill Cosby

It really takes a lifetime to understand what’s going on the kiddos mind. Going through scores of books, material on the net, getting tips from all the apparent agony aunts and here I get back to the crossroads where I constantly keep worrying about the kiddos eating habits, his throwing tantrums over silly things and also cant keep myself from amazing at the love and warmth I get from the chubby cheeks & dimpled chin. Sometimes I get to the edge of losing my temper and feel that may be this was a heavy price I am paying for having a child and I can’t stand a minute when he is out for a simple ride with his papa. But then again I am loving this experience, the whole experience without any expectations of being a mum and yes, again I am loving this small little cho chweet kiddo to bits and pieces. This fulfilling experience of being a woman is something which can only experienced when one gets to teach the roots of life to another little human being. But this whole thing has given a new meaning to both our lives. There were times when I was struggling day in and day out to lessen the stress levels I was going through being a new mum and here I am totally carefree and glad that its all a “learn as you go through it” process. So its all experience that really teaches you how to be a stress free parent and be a guilt free parent life( which I was going through for most part of kiddos below 2 years life given the fact that he is a fussy eater)

So, leading the stress free parent life thing isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.


• When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
• Lead by example because no matter what I advise the kiddo he wouldn’t pay 2 hoots to it but then seeing us and trying to imitate our activity has taught him most of his basic lessons. Be it brushing right after waking up or not drinking cola or table manners, he has learnt a lot by seeing us. So always lead by example, never advice.
• Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
• Do not worry about about the child’s eating habits. He is more in touch with Mother Nature than we are. So respect his taste buds and let him choose what to eat. You can play the role of an advisor, who gives him a chance to choose from different veggies.(All thanks to Rujuta for making me guilt free about this one thing!!)
• It is often the child’s behavior which is disliked. So differentiate the fact that it is only the behavior/attitude which you dislike in the child but then again the child means the world to you come what may. So show the difference and the kid understands the fact in due course of time.
• Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
• Repeat repeat and repeat at least 100 times. Children are novice to learning things so give 101st time a shot to try if the child hasn’t learn through your teaching him 100 times. Be patient.
• Kiss your child goodnight and ready a story to him every night. He might not totally understand but the story telling thing will reap benefits one day as you will see his imagination, vocabulary and word power increase by the day.
And be thankful for the bundle of joy god has gifted to you. Give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.

Generations of bonding

Such a wonderful sight to see my kiddo bonding with my grandmother.

Sometimes,I get upset thinking that my kiddo's childhood would be missing the beauty of rural India,which we enjoyed as kids..I remember that as kids,we used to get super excited about visiting my granny's house in our village.It was a lake side village which hardly had the government bus facility,leave alone railway connection.But,still the thought of travelling all the way from Vizag to my granny's place was nothing less of an expedition for us.
We used to eagerly wait for summer vacations to make this month long trip a memorable one.The village had very few large houses and my grandpa's house was a huge house which had a large Verandah with pink painted pillars all around the verandah and this was where we used to while away the scorching afternoons.The pathway adjoining the verandah had exotic smelling plants like the nightqueen,Jasmine,gulmohar and other variety of trees which would spread their sweet smell for the guests sitting in the verandah.
Next to the sitting area were two rooms with huge wooden doors ( with some carvings on the doors) where we used to play up and down all the time.Then there was vast open space next to the room where there were guava trees and some other flowering plants, which basically served as a lawn in between the rooms and the kitchen.Next to the kitchen was a well where I always wanted to fetch water using a rope, but never got a chance to do so because of my fearsome naani.
Now,all that seems history because with the passing away of my grandpa and people migrating over to the city culture, the house was remodeled and we are only left with these memories to share with our kids.
Memories,which the kiddo can only hear but never experience in reality.But the good thing is, my granny still lives in the same house inspite of my uncle's repeated requests to live with them.Maybe she still recollects the good old days in that house.She very rarely travels and this picture with the kiddo was taken when she came to our house during February this year.

Edited to Add: The kiddo need not wait for year end vacations to see his granny.She's just a phone call away from him : )