Guess I take on to writing when I really have no idea on how to go about doing all the work which I take on to my head and eventually realize that I cant actually perform it !!! Phew!!! I am sooo confused right now , totally clueless..My boss has assigned some work ( which I understand that he himself has no clue about) and this is where I end up at.. whining about the kind of over enthusiasm I unnecessarily display at work ...and all that leading to a blog post with my clueless rantings.And to top it up the semester is fast ending and I got to complete the syllabus for which I have to prepare a notes.... I really am so annoyed with my boss, not that he assigned any work but the kind of work he gave and the expectation out of it is totally hopeless.I really love the field I am in , the kind of feeling you get when you understand that you are enlightening a few young minds, that feeling is totally awesome, but setting boundaries around each line and sentence and word you speak and asking the best result out of it is an absolute sin.So what I did all evening was opening power-point, checking what info I have to insert , checking Google on how best that can be done,then back to ppt,then info,then Google some more then realize that I have not been blogging much these days and here I am!!! I don't understand how can I keep on ranting for 1 hour for the kind of strict info (about our college and its various activites as a part of college campaigning) which was provided to me,impossible.So how much time do I need to bounce back of that annoying situation....1,2,3,4 ok I am fine , decided I will talk to him clearly that there isn't much clarity on the work he has assigned and I am off to checking some kadhai chicken recipes.ciao ; )
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Thursday, February 27, 2014
Knock knock...
Its been a long time...lots of things happened since then....job change,got enrolled into Ph.D,busy with training classes even on Sundays,managing on the home front etc. etc..well, honestly I was too lazy to blog.thats the real reason........OK pretty much the summary of the bad and good in my life these days...but how time flies....
so today's holiday for me,thought of doing 100 different things with umpteen plans for today but when I finally realized that all of that is not really possible in this one decent holiday I pretty much settled in for blogging which I had almost forgotten.May be I find writing very comforting or energizing...I don't know...
I am a bit off today…am realizing that I need almost no reason to get ‘upset’ these days, so I don't think these mood swings count anymore. Anyways, felt a bit bored today...so I felt like listening to some peppy number and there it was..."Saadi ke fall sa tumhe match kiya rey,kabhi catch kia rey..." the first time I listened to this song I was like , oh god how awkward and idiotic the song is but after I heard it again I was like OK ..Prabhudeva's songs can uplift ur mood sometimes with such weird lyrics.....Hey indeed it is a peppy song...after listening to lungi song in every channel and every other school's annual day function I feel this song is soo refreshing,so its first lungi and now sari ka fall.
Y'day the senior students felicitated two faculty members who were getting relieved.It was very heartening to see how students shower their love and respect towards their teachers when the thought of separation sets in.For a moment I felt that the same concern should have been shown while the classes were being taken.But somehow they seem to undermine the importance of listening and actively interacting in the class.For me, evn if the student mumbles anything Its a great achievement in itself, but dear hardly do they speak.They listen( that's what I prefer to presume) as if they are totally engrossed in the lecture and the saddest part is even when a question is raised at the end of the session, the same engrossed look with no reaction or response is found.So what were they engrossed in really??
so today's holiday for me,thought of doing 100 different things with umpteen plans for today but when I finally realized that all of that is not really possible in this one decent holiday I pretty much settled in for blogging which I had almost forgotten.May be I find writing very comforting or energizing...I don't know...
I am a bit off today…am realizing that I need almost no reason to get ‘upset’ these days, so I don't think these mood swings count anymore. Anyways, felt a bit bored today...so I felt like listening to some peppy number and there it was..."Saadi ke fall sa tumhe match kiya rey,kabhi catch kia rey..." the first time I listened to this song I was like , oh god how awkward and idiotic the song is but after I heard it again I was like OK ..Prabhudeva's songs can uplift ur mood sometimes with such weird lyrics.....Hey indeed it is a peppy song...after listening to lungi song in every channel and every other school's annual day function I feel this song is soo refreshing,so its first lungi and now sari ka fall.
Y'day the senior students felicitated two faculty members who were getting relieved.It was very heartening to see how students shower their love and respect towards their teachers when the thought of separation sets in.For a moment I felt that the same concern should have been shown while the classes were being taken.But somehow they seem to undermine the importance of listening and actively interacting in the class.For me, evn if the student mumbles anything Its a great achievement in itself, but dear hardly do they speak.They listen( that's what I prefer to presume) as if they are totally engrossed in the lecture and the saddest part is even when a question is raised at the end of the session, the same engrossed look with no reaction or response is found.So what were they engrossed in really??
Thursday, July 11, 2013
A letter to my son on his Fourth birthday
Dear Kiddo,
Today you turn four. FOUR!! I’m sure it’s the kind of thing
mothers say every year to their growing children, but I just can’t believe how
fast the years have passed! It seems like one minute ago you were standing in
our living room, wearing diapers and trotting around searching for some thing
known only to you! It’s like I think I have been always living with you, since
I was born. It is as if we couldn’t imagine anytime when we were existing
without your presence. Such intense is your presence in our lives that I feel what
I would have missed had I not had you. Now every thought of mine revolves
around you and
every plan I make is keeping you in total consideration. I still remember that
as a young mother, so naïve at singing lullabies I used to make up my own and
sing for you while rocking you to sleep
and you used to stare at me( with a doubtful expression) when I went on
singing my own made up lullabies. And then I blinked and there you are total FOUR!
I still remember how freaked out I was to hold you in my
arms, that I kept away from taking you in my hands for almost one whole day
just to keep my little bundle from any harm due to my mishandling. Now I guess I have the
confidence of running your play school too!!
You have started having conversations with me and I honestly
feel as if I am in the presence of a peer!! Such incredible memory you have
that I sometimes have these guilt pangs which question me if I am wasting away
the time of a genius in the making! May be I need to hook you up to some sport
or craft where your skills are not wasted away!
Your school days have really taken off this year and a few
weeks back you have subsequently discovered your new love (or addiction) for
playing games on the computer and the mobile. Your love for Ben 10 has only
grown in leaps and bounds and gotten so much on you that you have made me mug
up the names of all the aliens! I always used to think Cartoon shows meant only
Tom and Jerry but then you changed my
whole view and now I am very well versed with every dialogue the cartoon
characters say by twisting their mouth in 100 different ways. I realize that
you have a heart of gold when you wanted me to feed the cats hovering around
our house rather than feeding you the
milk and setting curd, which is your all time favorite.I was almost in tears
when you said to your papa that “mama loves this song, please don’t
change” when a song from Aashiquie 2 was
being played on TV! I couldn’t have asked for a better baby!!!
Today you are 4 and I know in 10 years you will be 14 and I
will feel like I just blinked again and POOF! You are grown!! But please know
this my son, of all the things I hold dear, more than anything I possess, I
treasure these small moments that turn into days that turn into years and
ultimately memories. They are my treasures and I am so thankful that you were
added to our lives.
Happy Birthday!
Mamma
Friday, June 28, 2013
Monsoon in vizag!!
I'm not sure where to begin..which is exactly why I haven't updated this blog for sooooo long.But may be this lovely weather out here is making me write again .....guess the season of monsoon is back.May be the only time in Vizag which makes you go quenching for more rains in this season.Monsoon, there's magic in this word.Totally associated with romance, rejuvenation of life and joy. It is the moment of madness, when love seeks love and life knows no death, and the music of the monsoon, the dance of the rain overwhelm our hearts.The intoxicating smell of first rains, crisp air and dark clouds rolling around the sky is just too overwhelming for me who loves the rains.May be because we get so little of the rains that we keep asking for more!! It even rained on the day of my wedding.I don't remember eating off the kadhais but then it did drizzle a bit which I very happily welcomed.It was around this time of the year that I got married.Sometimes when I look at the albums and video I think I could have looked more better rather than the confused look which I wore in most of the pics. Well more on that in some other post coz the weather is really good outside and the poetic me feels like turning on some favorite songs of mine to feel the romance in the air.So off I go to my chores with some nice music turned on!!!
Thursday, July 5, 2012
of kids!!!
I couldn't help resist the urge to go back to this page on yahoo for recollecting the points over and over again.So,what better way to store this piece than my blog,so here it goes one of the good lists on upbringing.
1. Teach them to lose gracefully.
Kids who always win aren't going to be ready for the real world. Teach your child how to deal with disappointment. Let them see you try and fail while maintaining your composure.
3. Be a constant presence.
Be there when your child needs help with their homework, a ride to soccer practice, or someone to talk to. The key to raising successful kids isn't an expensive present - it's your presence.
4. Cheer loudly.
Be your son or daughter's biggest cheerleader in whatever activities they choose. Don't point out their failings. Celebrate their progress, as well as their success.
5. Don't do it for them.
It can be tempting to help your child through the rough spots. Know your place. You won't help your child succeed if you do the work for them.
6. Try new things.
You'll never find your niche if you don't get out of your comfort zone and try something new. Encourage your child to try a new sport, read a new book, or get involved in a new activity. Be sure to let them see you do the same!
7. Nurture, don't shelter.
If you want to raise successful children, you'll need to walk a fine line between nurturing and supporting them and sheltering them from the real world. I wish I had some magic way of knowing which side of the line I'm treading on, but the truth is that you just have to trust your gut with this one. If you shelter your children too much, success will be so much harder to come by in life.
8. Play fair.
The old adage about cheaters rings true today. Remind your children (often) that fair play matters more than winning and losing.
9. Keep your cool.
Do you yell at the coach from the sidelines? Use obscenities to handle situations at home? Fly off the handle regularly? Keeping your cool inspires your kids to do the same.
10. Be the example.
If you want your child to succeed in life, be the example for them in all that you say and do. Children learn when we forget they're even watching. What did you teach your child today?
1. Teach them to lose gracefully.
Kids who always win aren't going to be ready for the real world. Teach your child how to deal with disappointment. Let them see you try and fail while maintaining your composure.
2. Encourage perseverance.
Children need to learn to get back up after they fall. When you fall
down, get back up and try again. Successful individuals are persistent
people.
3. Be a constant presence.
Be there when your child needs help with their homework, a ride to soccer practice, or someone to talk to. The key to raising successful kids isn't an expensive present - it's your presence.
4. Cheer loudly.
Be your son or daughter's biggest cheerleader in whatever activities they choose. Don't point out their failings. Celebrate their progress, as well as their success.
5. Don't do it for them.
It can be tempting to help your child through the rough spots. Know your place. You won't help your child succeed if you do the work for them.
6. Try new things.
You'll never find your niche if you don't get out of your comfort zone and try something new. Encourage your child to try a new sport, read a new book, or get involved in a new activity. Be sure to let them see you do the same!
7. Nurture, don't shelter.
If you want to raise successful children, you'll need to walk a fine line between nurturing and supporting them and sheltering them from the real world. I wish I had some magic way of knowing which side of the line I'm treading on, but the truth is that you just have to trust your gut with this one. If you shelter your children too much, success will be so much harder to come by in life.
8. Play fair.
The old adage about cheaters rings true today. Remind your children (often) that fair play matters more than winning and losing.
9. Keep your cool.
Do you yell at the coach from the sidelines? Use obscenities to handle situations at home? Fly off the handle regularly? Keeping your cool inspires your kids to do the same.
10. Be the example.
If you want your child to succeed in life, be the example for them in all that you say and do. Children learn when we forget they're even watching. What did you teach your child today?
Monday, July 2, 2012
Monday Musings
Okay!! Back to Monday Musings..Oho ho why cant we have another Sunday in a week.How can Sunday go away in a fraction of a second even before I have started to realise that it is a Sunday.But then, yes there was so much I did this Sunday(which I have been planning to do since ages,now you know how bad a planner I can be) apart from taking rest (not that I needed it,but just to have the feel of a work less day) and being pampered by hubby dear's sumptuous Prawns Biryani with Boondi Raita. So there I am, with all the energy gathered, decided to plant two saplings, the first reason being my two little saplings withered away due to the scorching summer heat accompanied by lazy maids negligence while I had been away to my mom's place for a short 8 day vacation (yes,only 8 days(puts a sorry face : ( ).So this time I decided that I will wait for the rains to shower and yesterday I have at last planted two little plants, a rose with 4 tiny bunch of roses and a Tulsi sapling which I got from the nearby nursery.So these are my little saplings which made my Sunday this time around.
My kiddo's school started off and although me and hubby decided to go to the school and have a talk with the head mistress from where I planned to push off to my work.But then the Sunday outing had a taxing affect on me and as always I ran out of time, had to assign the kiddo's job to hubby and run away to office. After 3 long training sessions , now all I can ask for is some SLEEP.So let me be a good girl and hit the sack.Good night Dearies.
My kiddo's school started off and although me and hubby decided to go to the school and have a talk with the head mistress from where I planned to push off to my work.But then the Sunday outing had a taxing affect on me and as always I ran out of time, had to assign the kiddo's job to hubby and run away to office. After 3 long training sessions , now all I can ask for is some SLEEP.So let me be a good girl and hit the sack.Good night Dearies.
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Woo Hoo !!! I am back!!
The curtain raises.....and here I am back ....hellooooo all ( if there are any ; ) ) I guess I have been away from the blog world for quite sometime now but then its okay,as they say its better late than never. But I am back again to something I have been doing since I quit (if this is the right word I could use) college.A bit of a large break I had taken to spend time with my baby, the kiddo.Not that I didn't enjoy the time with my kiddo,bah(who does not seem to want anyone else when I am around).It's that I wanted to do something more to what I have got used to doing now since 3 years.,So after a long break of 3 years I am back to my regular working life. (though I can't yet call it a full time job since I have opted for flexitime,but chalo its cool by me).
So,here I am with a bang, back again ! yeah !! yeah !!Back to corporate world (Ahem,so heavy the word corporate sounds)!! Back to meetings,deadlines,Monday blues and only weekend outings.And with flexitime I couldn't afford to ask for a two day weekend like it was in my previous work place but then its great with what I have got.(still thinking at the back of my mind if I can make one/two outings on weekdays too but the thought of getting late to work next morning put my thoughts in place) So okey!! can't risk myself for things which are not under my control.At least for the Log in Time recording thingy which welcomes me with a "oh! so you are on time" look. Not to mention the fact that the kiddo has got so much pampered in these vacations that he does not get up on time or he only makes it a point to get up just when his mamma is about to leave for office (making me swallow the guilt of leaving him unattended) or even when he wakes up, it takes a huge toll om my acha acha made up morning mood to freshen him up and feed something edible to him after which he decides to start sulking while I leave the house.But even that seems to be getting better now a days.
Talking about the kiddo, I am really amazed at the speed at which he is catching up with things.I am surprised at his excellent memory and observational skills.He is also able to recall incidents which go into the purview of long lost and forgotten past according to me.Truly amazing with a mother who could not afford to remember what her hubby gifted her on her last birthday(which by the way was in April!!) Aaargh !!!
I can't seem to remember significant things while my kiddo has got exceptional memory skills.Well,it's all in the genes you see ( okay,don't give me that look). So things are going pretty fine at my home front except for a few hitches here and there which include forgetting to get the clothes over the terrace till they got completely drenched in rain,the kiddo getting all messy in his baby oil tube which I seem to have forgotten to hide it from him and not attending to the doctor's appointment after having fixed it in one months advance.Rest is fine excepting these chotey chotey issues.
Today will mark my first monthasary at job not to mention the fact that my first assignment was a complete disaster much to my amazement and delight (ha ha ha).And surprisingly a series of assignments followed it which I should say went well by my benchmarks(of course, I don't regard the other sides opinion here,My blog ya!!)So all goes on well until I find out that the LAN has gone off,Internet gets disconnected and my system,my precious system keeps hanging from time to time( bangs her head on the keyboard!! yes, go ahead, feel sorry for me).But, the one positive soul that I am, I started reading a book on stress management and with all that gyan downloaded (takes a bow and says) "What ta beautiful life this is "!!
The curtain raises.....and here I am back ....hellooooo all ( if there are any ; ) ) I guess I have been away from the blog world for quite sometime now but then its okay,as they say its better late than never. But I am back again to something I have been doing since I quit (if this is the right word I could use) college.A bit of a large break I had taken to spend time with my baby, the kiddo.Not that I didn't enjoy the time with my kiddo,bah(who does not seem to want anyone else when I am around).It's that I wanted to do something more to what I have got used to doing now since 3 years.,So after a long break of 3 years I am back to my regular working life. (though I can't yet call it a full time job since I have opted for flexitime,but chalo its cool by me).
So,here I am with a bang, back again ! yeah !! yeah !!Back to corporate world (Ahem,so heavy the word corporate sounds)!! Back to meetings,deadlines,Monday blues and only weekend outings.And with flexitime I couldn't afford to ask for a two day weekend like it was in my previous work place but then its great with what I have got.(still thinking at the back of my mind if I can make one/two outings on weekdays too but the thought of getting late to work next morning put my thoughts in place) So okey!! can't risk myself for things which are not under my control.At least for the Log in Time recording thingy which welcomes me with a "oh! so you are on time" look. Not to mention the fact that the kiddo has got so much pampered in these vacations that he does not get up on time or he only makes it a point to get up just when his mamma is about to leave for office (making me swallow the guilt of leaving him unattended) or even when he wakes up, it takes a huge toll om my acha acha made up morning mood to freshen him up and feed something edible to him after which he decides to start sulking while I leave the house.But even that seems to be getting better now a days.
Talking about the kiddo, I am really amazed at the speed at which he is catching up with things.I am surprised at his excellent memory and observational skills.He is also able to recall incidents which go into the purview of long lost and forgotten past according to me.Truly amazing with a mother who could not afford to remember what her hubby gifted her on her last birthday(which by the way was in April!!) Aaargh !!!
I can't seem to remember significant things while my kiddo has got exceptional memory skills.Well,it's all in the genes you see ( okay,don't give me that look). So things are going pretty fine at my home front except for a few hitches here and there which include forgetting to get the clothes over the terrace till they got completely drenched in rain,the kiddo getting all messy in his baby oil tube which I seem to have forgotten to hide it from him and not attending to the doctor's appointment after having fixed it in one months advance.Rest is fine excepting these chotey chotey issues.
Today will mark my first monthasary at job not to mention the fact that my first assignment was a complete disaster much to my amazement and delight (ha ha ha).And surprisingly a series of assignments followed it which I should say went well by my benchmarks(of course, I don't regard the other sides opinion here,My blog ya!!)So all goes on well until I find out that the LAN has gone off,Internet gets disconnected and my system,my precious system keeps hanging from time to time( bangs her head on the keyboard!! yes, go ahead, feel sorry for me).But, the one positive soul that I am, I started reading a book on stress management and with all that gyan downloaded (takes a bow and says) "What ta beautiful life this is "!!
The curtain raises.....and here I am back ....hellooooo all ( if there are any ; ) ) I guess I have been away from the blog world for quite sometime now but then its okay,as they say its better late than never. But I am back again to something I have been doing since I quit (if this is the right word I could use) college.A bit of a large break I had taken to spend time with my baby, the kiddo.Not that I didn't enjoy the time with my kiddo,bah(who does not seem to want anyone else when I am around).It's that I wanted to do something more to what I have got used to doing now since 3 years.,So after a long break of 3 years I am back to my regular working life. (though I can't yet call it a full time job since I have opted for flexitime,but chalo its cool by me).
Friday, May 11, 2012
Just do it...in 10 minutes
Wasting away hours and hours of our precious time and
frittering away the most productive years of our lives in the name of social
networking, Page 3 paper reading and chatting has become a norm of our day to
day life. I think Internet has got that fascinating power which can churn hours
and hours of our life in the name of mindless surfing. Internet perhaps is the
only God above Gods which can make us sit for hours and then before shutting
down makes us feel if we have done anything at all to call it a day. For once
and all I wanted to turn these habits upside down and give my life a productive
way of living by using small chunks of my time in doing things which are
productive as well as satisfying. I have taken 10 minutes for every activity I
wish to do for the day and then when the clock strikes 10 I put off the work
and get on with other activity. And hey people it worked for me & I am sure
it works for you too!!!
The first reason why it works is, we don’t feel the burden of
having to devote a large part of our time. We settle for as less as 10 minutes
for the prescribed task and zap, it is done. Leave it if it’s not done in 10
minutes .But chances are you don’t want to stop at 10 minutes, you might want
to go ahead and do the whole task. So that’s the icing on the cake. If you
don’t find the enthu continuing, you possibly don’t want to do it in the first
place.
But 10 minutes chunk of time can transform your life if practiced
daily.
Mastery of anything begins with 10 minutes of intense focus,
followed by another 10 minutes and so on.
Let’s challenge ourselves to get focus on working in 10
minute chunks:
- Write that long put off article today
- Make that forgotten telephone call today
- Meditate and discover the inner peace within yourself
- Take a walk and look how beautiful the world is around you.
- De clutter you inbox today
- Remove all those unwanted stationery and files on your table
- Finish off all that boring stuff you always wanted to do but were never able to put your time into
- Read your kids favorite bed time story today
- Get one cupboard /shelf decluttered today
- Practice anything which you have always wanted to
Or better still; get started with the real creative stuff whilst you are fresh.
Ten minute chunks is definitely doable and a good way to
start small and get more done.
We often get sidetracked online with reading nonsense at
times. Adding a 10 minute break in there too would be helpful.:)
Best way of avoiding getting side-tracked online is to close
all your browsers windows and tabs – or better still just physically disconnect
from the internet!
you can start developing a new mindset that concentrates on
optimism and constructive changes, and begin eliminating the ones that
influence your actions, emotions, and thoughts in a disadvantageous manner.
According to Parkinson’s Law, work expands to fill the time
available for its completion. Give yourself one day to complete a one hour
task, and the task itself grows ever more complex and daunting as it expands to
fill the one day time allocation. Complex and daunting because the time spent
in between doing the task and completing it in the time allocated inevitably
gives way to gnawing irritation and stress. So time – and simplicity – can be
gained by completing tasks (which fit into your goals) in 10 minute chunks and
by reducing to minimum time-wasting routines.
And relying on 10 minutes chunks is so much better than
multi tasking.
And just know that you never need to struggle again with
focusing on tasks – just give the task attention in 10 minute chunks and you’ll
have finished the task in no time at all :-
You can also remove all the negativity we carry around by
adding up 10 more minutes to our work life by eliminating
- Reading junk papers.
- Mindlessly surfing gossipy websites
- Checking inbox incessantly
- Following social media updates
- Toxic conversations with friends or co-workers
And hey today is the 10th of May so lets get
started with the 10 minute chunk in our lives from today itself!!!
Edited to Add: It was 10th when the post was drafted and got over to 11th when posted (smiles sheepishly)
Friday, March 30, 2012
Attitude of Gratitude
The message of being thankful for what we have and showing an attitude of gratitude works wonders when practiced in daily life.I have been getting this message very often these days.May be I needed to accept the thought of gratitude as a part of life and be really thankful for whatever little I have in life.I seriously feel that the real secret to a happy life is being content and thankful with whatever one has.And as the law of attraction works things fall into place and only the good happens to the person with such a thankful attitude.We often feel that a person's existence fills up our hearts with a positive energy and somebody else's might reflect all the negativity present in the world.It only happens when the person is not content with whatever he/she is having and living an unsatisfied,still to get kinda life.
So the key to happiness in GRATITUDE.Period.No matter how little you have by outside standards, no matter how unconventional your life is, no matter whether you are where you thought you'd be by now. Learning to have gratitude for what you have at this very moment is (I'm realizing) the most important thing you can learn to do.
So I'm asking myself daily,
Do I know how lucky I am?
And the answer is...yes. Sometimes. And sometimes no.(I'm working on it.)
So, its all about the folks we know, who have pretty much been handed a great life--spouse-wise, financially, good kids...you know, lucky ones. And the killer part is that they don't even seem to get to know how fortunate they are.
Very unfortunate at that.
But again the discussion at other people being lucky is something which is totally against the whole idea of gratitude, but then it's OK having imperfect discussions every now and then.
So the key to happiness in GRATITUDE.Period.No matter how little you have by outside standards, no matter how unconventional your life is, no matter whether you are where you thought you'd be by now. Learning to have gratitude for what you have at this very moment is (I'm realizing) the most important thing you can learn to do.
So I'm asking myself daily,
Do I know how lucky I am?
And the answer is...yes. Sometimes. And sometimes no.(I'm working on it.)
So, its all about the folks we know, who have pretty much been handed a great life--spouse-wise, financially, good kids...you know, lucky ones. And the killer part is that they don't even seem to get to know how fortunate they are.
Very unfortunate at that.
But again the discussion at other people being lucky is something which is totally against the whole idea of gratitude, but then it's OK having imperfect discussions every now and then.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Parenting - in bits & pieces
The only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children are those who’ve never had any.’ ~Bill Cosby
It really takes a lifetime to understand what’s going on the kiddos mind. Going through scores of books, material on the net, getting tips from all the apparent agony aunts and here I get back to the crossroads where I constantly keep worrying about the kiddos eating habits, his throwing tantrums over silly things and also cant keep myself from amazing at the love and warmth I get from the chubby cheeks & dimpled chin. Sometimes I get to the edge of losing my temper and feel that may be this was a heavy price I am paying for having a child and I can’t stand a minute when he is out for a simple ride with his papa. But then again I am loving this experience, the whole experience without any expectations of being a mum and yes, again I am loving this small little cho chweet kiddo to bits and pieces. This fulfilling experience of being a woman is something which can only experienced when one gets to teach the roots of life to another little human being. But this whole thing has given a new meaning to both our lives. There were times when I was struggling day in and day out to lessen the stress levels I was going through being a new mum and here I am totally carefree and glad that its all a “learn as you go through it” process. So its all experience that really teaches you how to be a stress free parent and be a guilt free parent life( which I was going through for most part of kiddos below 2 years life given the fact that he is a fussy eater)
So, leading the stress free parent life thing isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.
• When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
• Lead by example because no matter what I advise the kiddo he wouldn’t pay 2 hoots to it but then seeing us and trying to imitate our activity has taught him most of his basic lessons. Be it brushing right after waking up or not drinking cola or table manners, he has learnt a lot by seeing us. So always lead by example, never advice.
• Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
• Do not worry about about the child’s eating habits. He is more in touch with Mother Nature than we are. So respect his taste buds and let him choose what to eat. You can play the role of an advisor, who gives him a chance to choose from different veggies.(All thanks to Rujuta for making me guilt free about this one thing!!)
• It is often the child’s behavior which is disliked. So differentiate the fact that it is only the behavior/attitude which you dislike in the child but then again the child means the world to you come what may. So show the difference and the kid understands the fact in due course of time.
• Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
• Repeat repeat and repeat at least 100 times. Children are novice to learning things so give 101st time a shot to try if the child hasn’t learn through your teaching him 100 times. Be patient.
• Kiss your child goodnight and ready a story to him every night. He might not totally understand but the story telling thing will reap benefits one day as you will see his imagination, vocabulary and word power increase by the day.
And be thankful for the bundle of joy god has gifted to you. Give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.
It really takes a lifetime to understand what’s going on the kiddos mind. Going through scores of books, material on the net, getting tips from all the apparent agony aunts and here I get back to the crossroads where I constantly keep worrying about the kiddos eating habits, his throwing tantrums over silly things and also cant keep myself from amazing at the love and warmth I get from the chubby cheeks & dimpled chin. Sometimes I get to the edge of losing my temper and feel that may be this was a heavy price I am paying for having a child and I can’t stand a minute when he is out for a simple ride with his papa. But then again I am loving this experience, the whole experience without any expectations of being a mum and yes, again I am loving this small little cho chweet kiddo to bits and pieces. This fulfilling experience of being a woman is something which can only experienced when one gets to teach the roots of life to another little human being. But this whole thing has given a new meaning to both our lives. There were times when I was struggling day in and day out to lessen the stress levels I was going through being a new mum and here I am totally carefree and glad that its all a “learn as you go through it” process. So its all experience that really teaches you how to be a stress free parent and be a guilt free parent life( which I was going through for most part of kiddos below 2 years life given the fact that he is a fussy eater)
So, leading the stress free parent life thing isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.
• When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
• Lead by example because no matter what I advise the kiddo he wouldn’t pay 2 hoots to it but then seeing us and trying to imitate our activity has taught him most of his basic lessons. Be it brushing right after waking up or not drinking cola or table manners, he has learnt a lot by seeing us. So always lead by example, never advice.
• Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
• Do not worry about about the child’s eating habits. He is more in touch with Mother Nature than we are. So respect his taste buds and let him choose what to eat. You can play the role of an advisor, who gives him a chance to choose from different veggies.(All thanks to Rujuta for making me guilt free about this one thing!!)
• It is often the child’s behavior which is disliked. So differentiate the fact that it is only the behavior/attitude which you dislike in the child but then again the child means the world to you come what may. So show the difference and the kid understands the fact in due course of time.
• Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
• Repeat repeat and repeat at least 100 times. Children are novice to learning things so give 101st time a shot to try if the child hasn’t learn through your teaching him 100 times. Be patient.
• Kiss your child goodnight and ready a story to him every night. He might not totally understand but the story telling thing will reap benefits one day as you will see his imagination, vocabulary and word power increase by the day.
And be thankful for the bundle of joy god has gifted to you. Give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.
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