Rendezvous with myself

This is an extension of "about me" category on the blog.
I am trying to mention at least 25 points about me.I can go on rambling about this super human being but how much can one read about the bestest species. As Aamir would have said towards the end of Dil Chahta Hai, "Perfection ko improve karna mushkil hota hai".So go on .Here I am..

1. I am a Stay At Home Mom and I have started liking this status.So,may be I might bid adieu to corporate slavery and settle down happily in motherhood.(not sure yet,might try for some flexitime possibility)
2. I have started to shut up with people who are dumb to new ideas and addicted to age old crap in the name of customs and traditions.Good for them,good for me.
Enlightenment work is not my business.Let them die in bliss (Ignorance is bliss,anyways)
3. I can't be goody goody with people I hate and I don't stop being friends with people on the basis of third party allegations.I need to see it to believe it.So,back biters don't affect me.
4. I buy books and forget to read them.
5. I am married to a person who loves me unconditionally,irrespective of all my flaws and follies.
6. I am not a very hard working person.
7. I hate SMSing back.
8. I support Euthanasia - not because I couldn't watch Hrithik in Guzaarish, but I really feel that is the solution for once and all.
Ref: Aruna shanbag's case, a lady who has been fighting the battle of life for the past 37 years.God, please have mercy.
9. Health is Wealth - I totally agree with this.
10. When in doubt, I turn to my parents for advice
11. Someday,I would open my own YOGA STUDIO.
12. Also,I will have a personal library of mine.
13. I invest in shares just for the joy of tracking them.
14. I don't watch much of TV
15. Manusmriti scripts are total bakwas and I can't stand anyone who supports them for the mere reason that they do not belong to this day and age.I feel they are written by a person who does not know the meaning of humanism,leave alone feminism.
16. I feel embarassed when people catch me crying over an emotional flick.
17. I am happy that plastic is banned in Hyderabad.Feel sorry for the 5 lakh and above people employed in it.
18. I love reading books - any sort.
19. Mother guilt creeps into me very often.More when the kiddo does not complete his food.
20. I am not photogenic.I am the third shortest member in my family.I have put on kilos of weight on me which shows off as flab,trying to get off it.I love myself,nevertheless.
21. I used to adore Barkha Dutt and wanted to become a journalist during my college days.
22. I was a fan of Nicolas cage,until one of my friends commented about him being bald.
23. I think I can never ever have the patience of my mom.
24. Very soon I am gonna start volunteering an NGO which works for children's cause.
25.I am a night owl.I can never wake up to see the beauty of sunrise but can watch the moon give way to the sun.

WOW,this was way too easy than I had expected and I have still so many to rant about.Shall post the remaining in part II.What say?

Generations of bonding

Such a wonderful sight to see my kiddo bonding with my grandmother.

Sometimes,I get upset thinking that my kiddo's childhood would be missing the beauty of rural India,which we enjoyed as kids..I remember that as kids,we used to get super excited about visiting my granny's house in our village.It was a lake side village which hardly had the government bus facility,leave alone railway connection.But,still the thought of travelling all the way from Vizag to my granny's place was nothing less of an expedition for us.
We used to eagerly wait for summer vacations to make this month long trip a memorable one.The village had very few large houses and my grandpa's house was a huge house which had a large Verandah with pink painted pillars all around the verandah and this was where we used to while away the scorching afternoons.The pathway adjoining the verandah had exotic smelling plants like the nightqueen,Jasmine,gulmohar and other variety of trees which would spread their sweet smell for the guests sitting in the verandah.
Next to the sitting area were two rooms with huge wooden doors ( with some carvings on the doors) where we used to play up and down all the time.Then there was vast open space next to the room where there were guava trees and some other flowering plants, which basically served as a lawn in between the rooms and the kitchen.Next to the kitchen was a well where I always wanted to fetch water using a rope, but never got a chance to do so because of my fearsome naani.
Now,all that seems history because with the passing away of my grandpa and people migrating over to the city culture, the house was remodeled and we are only left with these memories to share with our kids.
Memories,which the kiddo can only hear but never experience in reality.But the good thing is, my granny still lives in the same house inspite of my uncle's repeated requests to live with them.Maybe she still recollects the good old days in that house.She very rarely travels and this picture with the kiddo was taken when she came to our house during February this year.

Edited to Add: The kiddo need not wait for year end vacations to see his granny.She's just a phone call away from him : )

This and that

Amazed at how people change with the passing phases in life.May be that is called learning from experiences and living with the flow.The sleeping kiddo,boring TV and non-stop rain have given me some quality time to think of what I actually learnt from this journey of life.
1. Patience: An attribute which I always lacked but I suddenly sense that I have it in tonnes( all thanks to my kiddo).Getting even never works.Just being patient solves many problems in life.
2. Forget what others think about you because as long as you try pleasing them and trying to be in their good books,you will lose your own self and have to life someone else's way.So just be yourself.This is something I learnt the hard way, after realising that I was not being myself trying to put up with something I don't believe in.
3.Being healthy is very important,for you and for others dependent on you.
4.Fear of the future : Just prepare for the worst and you actually realise that the future is not all that worst.It is the attitude that actually matters.
5.Smile and the world smile backs at you: Very true.A smile can actually win over people with whom we are not very friendly.A heartful smile can ease the situation and break the ice of bitterness.
6. Hang on: There were times when I left things midway but hanging on with the situation and seeing the situation with positive perspective really helped.So hang on and give things a chance, if you still are not comfortable then it is time to give up.
7.Now is the time: Postponing things for a particular date never helps.It is now or never.
8.Save for a rainy day: Start saving right from the day you start earning.Money compounds in no time and one day you are the richest.
9. Curiousness for everything going around enriches one's life.May be that is the reason why kids are always busy doing little things they like and they dont seem to know what boredom means.So enrich your life by reading books,taking up a physical activity or with anything for which you are passionate about.
10. Get rid of the past: Burying one's self in the past looks great in films but it sucks in reality.Just get out of it and move on because life is so much more beautiful than fretting over what has happened.

Hey 'YOU'

AN OPEN LETTER TO MY DEAR WOMEN

Dear Women,

You are a wonderful creature which god has gifted to the mankind(you know that).I have always wanted to talk to you.I am the voice in your head who would like to speak its mind, but prefers being shut up for the fear of being labelled as a feminist.Now,the time has come to have a dialogue with you, since I feel there is an urgent need for you to slow down,relax and listen to me at least for once in your lifetime.So,please listen to me,no no its not about your son's school or your daughter's exam or your husbands office party or your in-laws health.It's about YOU.Yes,only you.Hey wait,wait is it sounding way too strange that I am speaking about something which you have forgotten long ago when you got married and buried completely in the celebration of the arrival of your 'bundle of joy'(aka ghar ka waris).Boring it may sound,but listen to me.
Feminist one may call me,busy you might be,but you have to spare me a second.Now,come on you are such a big hearted creature that you have time for everyone around(excepting you, ofcourse) so sparing a few minutes to me,I am sure is not a big deal to you.
Ok,now tell me when was the last time you have cooked something for yourself.Don't say 'cooking has become a daily chore'.Think when have you cooked something exclusively for yourself.(now,don't give that nasty look).Guess when have you cooked a favorite dish of yours?What?Can't remember.Okey,tough one at that I guess!Now you must be thinking, why on earth would you become such a selfish human being and cook something which is of your favorite rather than adjust with anything which your betu or hubby likes?What say?
Huh! Indian NAARI!
Tags like Super woman/mom,Good bahu and ideal mother matter much more to you than the real 'YOU'.
I can't buy the benchmarking set for women just to become that ideal bahu,ideal mother or ideal beti for that matter.This ideal concept is nothing but pure bullshit.
Just to make a woman more and more glued towards the cause of becoming an ideal women,such nonsense is vibrated rhythmically into our mental conditioning.It is like you have forgotten the you,in yourself.It is as if your needs have been transferred to some other planet and the slightest imagination of these needs makes you labelled as selfish and irresponsible.NOT DONE YA.

The truth is ideal women does not exist on this earth.Super moms,who take care of husband,job,kids,in-laws,relatives,house,laundry,kitchen,garden and each and every aspect of life only exist in films and TV soaps.If you are trying to become one,supressing your passions and needs,then get ready for the retaliation setting within yourself,which might burst any moment.This ideal concept goes to the extent of women sacrificing their hunger,sleep,desires,passions and totally stressed out to the point of forgetting that there existed one person called YOU.
So now ennuff of kids,family,boss etc.etc., and take a break.Take a break,not for
anyone else,but for the me in you.Just give it a try.Do something for yourself.Just for your sake.Leave behind the ideal nonsense(suitable for soaps),forget the guilt factor(you should be already guilty for degenerating yourself),so just for once live life for your sake.Live life on your own terms.For your contentment,for your fulfillment.That is Bliss.That is called LIFE.At least for sometimes.Let the positive energy flow and spread everywhere around you.The positive energy has a boomerang effect and it takes everyone into its stride.Let the suppressed retaliation take wings and fly away.Discover the new you.Now you are the ideal women. No other take on that.

Waiting for your response,
your inner voice.